Thankful and Grateful…


“Gratitude for the abundance you have received is the best insurance that the abundance will continue.” ~Muhammad

Gratitude is a “multiplier” of positive energy. The more you are grateful, the more you will receive to be grateful for.

I know that there are times in life when it is hard, if not seemingly impossible, to be “grateful”. Believe me, I understand that very well. It is, I have found, a matter of perspective. Always. Being able to find real gratitude, within a great challenge or loss in life, can be one of the most profoundly life changing things to ever happen to someone. I know that to be true as well.

Gratitude need not be a complex ritual or deep spiritual process. In fact, the simpler acts of gratitude, like saying “thank you”,  are often the most meaningful.

“If the only prayer you say in your entire life is- ‘thank you’- that is enough.” ~Meister Eckhart

Yet, it needs to be heartfelt and consistent. Not something you do just in response to someone else’s act of generosity or kindness. No, the true power of Gratitude can be found when it becomes a real and lasting part of who you are, and how you express that in this world.

“Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin, and an antiseptic.” ~John Jowett

In my own life experience I did not fully comprehend the true meaning of BE-ing grateful. I did not know the power hidden within the act of Gratitude. And, it was the self-sabotage of my own life, along with various deeply heartbreaking moments and loss, that broke me down. Those life challenges caused me to look for deeper meaning and understanding hidden within those heartbreaks. I am sure many of you, my friends, can relate to that.

But, I had to “learn” how to be Grateful. How to practice Gratitude and BE Grateful. It was very simple actually and, once I started down this path, things just snowballed. Gratitude took on a life of its own for me.

I’d like to share with you some of the things I did, and still do, on a daily basis to make true Gratitude a deeply ingrained part of my life. I am sure you have practices of your own. I am just sharing what I do that has transformed my life over the past few years. Feel free to add some of your own if you’d like.

1) At night, right before I fall asleep, I deliberately find at least three things to say “thank you” for. Often those things are not, at first glance, “positive” things at all. Sometimes they are hard lessons. But, again, it is all about perspective.

2) Create a habit of giving “thanks” in the morning. First thing. My mantra is simple- “Thank you for another day of possibilities. I am grateful for my life and will share that Gratitude, somehow, with everyone I encounter today.I am fully alive and in Love with Life.”

3) Throughout the day, and this is the one that I had to practice a great deal, I say “thank you” for as many things as I can. For the sunrise, for the heat in the house, for the water I drink, etc. This became a very powerful force in my life and I can, 100%, tell you that this one thing helped me to manifest and affect amazing changes in my life. As I practiced this I was amazed at how many things one can find to be truly grateful for. How quickly my perspective changed in life and, in turn, how greatly my life experience shifted to a far more positive one.

4) Work to find Gratitude, in all things. Even in the negatives that happen in life. Yes, I know it can be hard. I can tell you that if I had not been able to do this, to reframe some of those heartbreaks I experienced a few years ago, I would not be here today. It is a key to a higher plane in life, and a key to a rich and deeply satisfying life.

5) Practice this. It might feel or seem weird at first. But, of all the things I have had to practice in my life, this was something that took on a life of it’s own for me. Try to create an “Attitude of Gratitude” in everything you do. It might sound silly or “New Agey” but real, deep and consistent Gratitude is a foundation for success in life that every mentor, coach, guru, teacher, etc., I have ever had the privilege to learn from, cites as core.

These are just my thoughts about “Gratitude” given with Love and, yes, with Gratitude. Just felt like sharing this and, please, feel free to add your own personal practices if you’d like. We are all just walking one another home…

Much love,

He said, ‘I’m okay, sir. Thanks for asking”…

I cursed the factThis time of year giving and unselfish acts increase because that is the nature of the season (or should be).That’s good. I say that this is the “nature” we should have ALL year-long though. And, it is all too true that this time of year makes people crazy, angry and stressed out and, even uncaring. Wrapped up in the rush and “busyness” of the holidays. That is not good. But it happens.

For instance…

I saw a man yesterday, sitting on a bench, in the rain/sleet/snow/wind, with an old, army style jacket over his head. I could not see his face. He was obviously homeless and in despair. No one would sit there, in that cold, dismal weather, if they had a warm place to go to.

He was not begging. He was not even awake, from what I could see. Yet, he was there and people, this was at lunch time in downtown Colorado Springs, passed him seemingly oblivious to this human being. As if he did not exist. Hoping perhaps that “someone” would come along and “help” this “poor man”. But, apparently that “someone” was not them.

I was deeply moved by this scene…

I had to be at a business lunch meeting and it was right across the street from where he was. I stopped and sat down next to him. He did not move. I wondered if he was okay…lots of thoughts going through my head. Would he be angry if I woke him up? What if he was dead? What if he became violent? So, I did what was right. What I HAD to do. I spoke to him. Nothing. I talked a bit louder. Nothing. So I nudged him. The mass that was him, all huddled up, cold and not wanting to look out from underneath his hiding place moved. He slowly took the jacket down. He looked at me, I looked into eyes that held so much. The eyes do that. They hold the truth of the soul.

He did not say anything so I asked him if we was okay. He looked at me. I am in my Hermes wool and leather overcoat and an Ermenegildo Zegna wool-and-cashmere suit. He is in jeans and a sweatshirt, his jacket is around his head. I could tell he was not sure what I was about. Maybe thinking “What the hell was this guy doing stopping here in the cold when no one else was?” But I HAD to stop. I know “someone” in my past that had “stopped” for me once. It made all the difference in the world to me. I would not be here today if that had not happened….

He said, “I’m okay, sir, thanks for asking”.
“Thanks for asking”, he said!

Wow! I am tearing up just thinking about again…

At the time I just choked up. Not really sure what to say to that. He had a thick beard and there were obvious issues with his teeth. He was disheveled and dirty. To be honest he smelled. Bad. Yet, all the Love that was inside of me just poured out. I remembered my own personal story. That makes it easy to love and care about someone in this state.

I loved this man at that moment with all that my heart had to offer. It did not matter why he was there or what his story was. He was a man, a human being, just like me. Yes, just like me. I won’t tell you what I did for him because this is not about me. But, I did as much as I possibly could for him, grateful that I could help.

I hope that the most important thing I gave to him was love and a bit of encouragement to push past this, to find his heart again. I like to think so but that part is not up to me. I know that I gained from this encounter and from the hundreds of others I have had in my life-like this. I hope he did too.

I am always giving to others. Not for my ego or for compliments. It is just my nature. I believe it is everyone’s true nature. We are at our best when we are giving, or loving. And, after all, isn’t that what “Love” really is? Giving of “self” to others? Giving love to others without conditions is, I believe, our highest calling. It brings into the world a power so great that anything is possible. I believe that. 1000%…

Much Love to All,


Life and a bowl of cherries!

Life2Relax and Breathe…Yes, life is hard and it sucks sometimes. But, we tend to make things worse by over thinking, being way too hard on ourselves and by buying into the mind game that this is “how it has to be”. Listen, no one knows better than I do how incredibly tough it can get. I have been there. But nothing is gained by staying in that space. You are no good to anyone when you buy into that BS notion that life just sucks AND that this is how life is meant to be. Key there: “meant to be”. That is just not true!

Is life always a “bowl of cherries” or whatever fruit makes you happy? Of course not! And, let’s not buy into that idea either because that is unrealistic.That’s just more of that mind game really.

How about finding the space in life (it takes you not giving up or giving in. This shit ain’t easy you know!) where things flow more often than not? How about accepting that things will be tough from time to time and allowing that to be? Allowing yourself that space to feel sad or bad or angry? Yes, that is okay too. It really is.

Where things get muddied up is when we stay there. When we let that become who we are and what we are. That does not need to happen! Ever…..

Today why not make conscious choices and create the day that YOU want. Take a few minutes to be grateful. Gratitude is a magic trick that can do amazing things in your life, if you are consistent with it. Why not accept that things might (probably will) happen that are not according to plan? If you come at life that way it’s hard to get knocked down and even harder for things to keep you down…

Love, Peace and Joy to you my friends!