He said, ‘I’m okay, sir. Thanks for asking”…

I cursed the factThis time of year giving and unselfish acts increase because that is the nature of the season (or should be).That’s good. I say that this is the “nature” we should have ALL year-long though. And, it is all too true that this time of year makes people crazy, angry and stressed out and, even uncaring. Wrapped up in the rush and “busyness” of the holidays. That is not good. But it happens.

For instance…

I saw a man yesterday, sitting on a bench, in the rain/sleet/snow/wind, with an old, army style jacket over his head. I could not see his face. He was obviously homeless and in despair. No one would sit there, in that cold, dismal weather, if they had a warm place to go to.

He was not begging. He was not even awake, from what I could see. Yet, he was there and people, this was at lunch time in downtown Colorado Springs, passed him seemingly oblivious to this human being. As if he did not exist. Hoping perhaps that “someone” would come along and “help” this “poor man”. But, apparently that “someone” was not them.

I was deeply moved by this scene…

I had to be at a business lunch meeting and it was right across the street from where he was. I stopped and sat down next to him. He did not move. I wondered if he was okay…lots of thoughts going through my head. Would he be angry if I woke him up? What if he was dead? What if he became violent? So, I did what was right. What I HAD to do. I spoke to him. Nothing. I talked a bit louder. Nothing. So I nudged him. The mass that was him, all huddled up, cold and not wanting to look out from underneath his hiding place moved. He slowly took the jacket down. He looked at me, I looked into eyes that held so much. The eyes do that. They hold the truth of the soul.

He did not say anything so I asked him if we was okay. He looked at me. I am in my Hermes wool and leather overcoat and an Ermenegildo Zegna wool-and-cashmere suit. He is in jeans and a sweatshirt, his jacket is around his head. I could tell he was not sure what I was about. Maybe thinking “What the hell was this guy doing stopping here in the cold when no one else was?” But I HAD to stop. I know “someone” in my past that had “stopped” for me once. It made all the difference in the world to me. I would not be here today if that had not happened….

He said, “I’m okay, sir, thanks for asking”.
What???
“Thanks for asking”, he said!

Wow! I am tearing up just thinking about again…

At the time I just choked up. Not really sure what to say to that. He had a thick beard and there were obvious issues with his teeth. He was disheveled and dirty. To be honest he smelled. Bad. Yet, all the Love that was inside of me just poured out. I remembered my own personal story. That makes it easy to love and care about someone in this state.

I loved this man at that moment with all that my heart had to offer. It did not matter why he was there or what his story was. He was a man, a human being, just like me. Yes, just like me. I won’t tell you what I did for him because this is not about me. But, I did as much as I possibly could for him, grateful that I could help.

I hope that the most important thing I gave to him was love and a bit of encouragement to push past this, to find his heart again. I like to think so but that part is not up to me. I know that I gained from this encounter and from the hundreds of others I have had in my life-like this. I hope he did too.

I am always giving to others. Not for my ego or for compliments. It is just my nature. I believe it is everyone’s true nature. We are at our best when we are giving, or loving. And, after all, isn’t that what “Love” really is? Giving of “self” to others? Giving love to others without conditions is, I believe, our highest calling. It brings into the world a power so great that anything is possible. I believe that. 1000%…

Much Love to All,

Rico

The human spirit is just amazing…

 

Nothing more beautiful than a smile

I met a waitress last night (that’s not the start of a bad joke either…promise!) who felt at ease talking to me. She really opened up about her life.

She’s 25, married with two kids and a husband who was diagnosed with MS. She met the guy before he came down with major symptoms and got the diagnosis. And they had the kids after they got married. She married him KNOWING that he might not ever be 100% “okay” or be able to truly contribute financially, etc. Her words: “I married him anyway”.

I got the sense that her decision was much more profound than just “physical” love although she clearly has that for him. She is physically gorgeous so I’m sure she had “options”. She’s also very intelligent judging by the in-depth conversation we had about education and conscious living.

It seemed more that she was “aware” of a deeper purpose in her life and that, through this challenge, she was fulfilling some of that purpose. She works hard. Cares for her husband (more and more as the disease progresses) and the kids. Brings in the bulk of their income and….

She SMILES like she has no challenges or tough situations in her life at all! She is a joy to talk to and is one of the main reasons I frequent this particular restaurant.  She brightens MY day as well as her co-workers and even her boss judging by the way they all get along.

I realize it was her choice to take this path. Yet how many people, even after they made that choice, would now be upset, angry, sad or playing the “victim”?

I love meeting people like this and hearing their stories. It’s just another confirmation, to me anyway, that life is truly what we make of it. That there is a higher purpose and power within each of us that is always present no matter the situation…if we learn how to tap into it.

So smile today and BE grateful! I know I am…
Rico-

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I have marveled at it’s power…….

Practice your love

“Love” is passion, positive energy, divine, divinely created, powerful and never really out of our reach. And, it comes in many forms… 

It can be that sweet emotion we feel for someone. It can be the powerful, awe-inspiring presence we feel or get in touch with when we are silent and in the NOW. It can be that breath-taking sense of wonder when we are in the wild gazing at the night sky. It can be that drive/passion you feel when you are creating or doing what you love in your business or work. It can be that deep sense of compassion you might experience when you are able to give back somehow in life. It is Gratitude. It is one of the “gifts” we are blessed to have and to feel as human beings, although I believe it is not necessarily limited to us.

Never let love go unnoticed or unfulfilled! Seek it but never hold it or keep it prisoner. I am learning about the power of love from many of you. Grateful for that. I am learning how to release it and…

I have marveled at its power…..

Love to all,
Rico-